Dealing With Disappointment
Funny how God works. Mo’Nique and I chose this topic and the launch date over a month ago, not knowing what we’d face between then and now.
Honestly, I’m still in my feelings concerning a recent bout of disappointment for me. Disappointment is simply a part of life. I get that. However, that doesn’t make it hurt any less. Those words hurt. For others, that job loss hurt. That diagnosis hurt. That failed friendship hurt. That verbal jab hurt. That character assassination attempt hurt. That gossip hurt. Those lies hurt. That rejection hurt…but God heals.
It is awfully hard for God to begin the healing process if we refuse to part with the anger that disappointment can bring. Whether you’re upset with God, the other party, or even yourself, the anger can’t come with you on the journey to healing. It is imperative that we do not respond in our anger or hurt. The Bible says, “In your anger do not sin…” (Ephesians 4:26). What we say or do in haste will haunt us. Be angry, but be still. Don’t stay angry for too long, for you will become bitter. Give God your hurt. He can handle it, I promise.
Psalm 42:11 says,
“Why am I discouraged? Why is my heart so sad? I will put my hope in God! I will praise him again – my Savior and my God!”
Put your hope in God again sis. Problems and people that result in disappointment come and go, but the peace of our Father remains the same - always yours for the taking.
“Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”
I truly believe with all of me that I have the heart of my Father. I have such heart for people, and that can cause me to leave my heart exposed and foolishly vulnerable. Being disappointed by people alone can cause such frustration and anger…I know.
I realized that this walk with Christ can sometimes feel like a roller coaster ride when our resilient hope and faith clash with an unexpected reality. It seems that when our prayers aren't answered as we anticipated and our expectancy becomes shattered, disappointment is the natural result.
The truth is, when I am disappointed my natural tendency is to complain...a lot. LOL.
Unfortunately, complaining to other people rarely helps solve my problems. Instead, it tends to drive people away. Nobody wants to hang around a person who has a self-pitying, pessimistic outlook on life.
I had to learn that it’s imperative that I follow God’s direction, even if it isn’t what I want to do. Oftentimes the Lord’s way contradicts my own desires and the advice of friends. However, I trust that His plan is the one that will bring about growth and result in my greatest good. I learned to use my disappointment to reevaluate my life where it is. No, it’s not the easiest thing to do and sometimes I roll my eyes and want to sulk in my pity party. But, I have to realize it’s my response to disappointment that brings about change in my life. The bible says:
And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them. Romans 8:28.
I have once said in a previous blog, that it is NOT a sin to feel disappointed or even hurt! What becomes sin is our fleshy reactions e.g. bitterness, anger, hate, malice, unforgiveness, resentment, and so forth. Sometimes when we are experiencing unexplained hurt or anger, God just wants to see our reaction...are you reacting as a believer of His word?